Living alongside compulsive sexual behaviour, or sexual behaviour that feels out of control, can be overwhelming. It can be compounded when there is a need to disclose. To a partner, a loved one, a family member. The knowledge that disclosure is needed, about things that have been done and ways others may have been let down, can feel completely overwhelming.
The build-up causes significant distress: anxiety, low mood, isolation, shame. It can also fuel the very behaviour you are trying to stop or change.
The work helps you think about what disclosure means for you. Who you want to disclose to. What it might look like. For some people, this is the beginning of contemplation. What to say, how to say it, whom to tell. For others, disclosure has already happened, or a partner has found out. In that case, the work is about how to keep the conversations going, and how to manage the complex feelings that come up when someone else now knows.
The focus is often to reduce shame and to help you make sense of your own behaviour, so that the way you communicate strengthens and connects the relationships that matter to you. Sometimes this is done with you alone. Sometimes with your partner or another loved one in the room.
Disclosure can feel painful. Disclosure done well predicts positive outcomes.
For the relationship and for recovery.
We never pressure into disclosure. We never enforce it. But where you are considering it, having space to think through how it works, and the impact it might have on you and those around you, matters.
Disclosure done well allows relationships to thrive again, to rebuild trust, and to create safety. People rebuild their lives while keeping the relationships that matter to them.
A willingness. Even just to think about disclosure to another person. If you are in that space, we can help you formulate what it might look like. If you have already done it, we can help you build on that first step, and think about how disclosure can support recovery and the relationships you want to take forward.